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McNair murder-suicide symptomatic of SA ills

by mhurst


Posted on July 13, 2009 at 12:57 AM

Updated Tuesday, Oct 27 at 11:47 AM

Unfortunately, this seems like the year of the domestic violence murder. Nationally and locally, we've seen the most horrifying cases attributed to domestic violence. Perhaps, the most high profile example is the recent murder of NFL standout Steve McNair.
According to investigators, McNair was shot to death in his sleep by his mistress Sahel Kamezi.
Statistically, the 36-year-old father and husband is part of a much smaller group of domestic violence victims. Women are, by far, experience the most domestic abuse.
One in four women (25%) have experienced domestic violence in her lifetime.
All across the country, entire families have been wiped out at the hands of domestic violence. Earlier this year, in California case a man killed his wife, five young children, then, took his own life.
The deaths in San Antonio have been just as horrific.
On average, more than three women and one man are murdered by their intimate partners in this country every day.
In late January, Darryl Younger reportedly killed his 91-year-old father, his 24-year-old son, and killed himself. It happened in the 2100 block of Babs. Three generations gone instantly.
Just a month later in an unrelated case, murder-suicide reared its ugly head again. This time, Mary Yvette Ford was the victim. The 44-year-old was gunned down inside the apartment of Carmen Delgadillo. San Antonio police said the 56-year-old fatally wounded Ford. He, then, shot himself in the chest. It happened in the 8800 block of Starcrest. Delgadillo reportedly grew jealous over Ford's recent marriage.
That same month Kristy Appleby was chased down and shot in the parking lot of the animal clinic where she worked. Bexar County investigators said Leticia Arcos is the woman who pulled the trigger on her husband's former girlfriend. It's been alleged there was, perhaps, more to the relationship between the victim and the suspect.
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How about the arrest of James Morrison? He was arrested for reportedly killing his former girlfriend's mother and sister.
Recently, Elipido Ledesma was jailed because police said he stabbed his ex-wife to death. Then, investigators said he ran over her with a vehicle.
Even more recent, Misty Espinoza and Clarence Blades were ambushed with gunfire inside of a Dollar General Store by her husband. Police said Alonso Mendoza may have snapped because his wife wanted to end their recent marriage.
Finally, the complex and tragic San Antonio triple murder over the Independence Day weekend. John Kevin Bones, Courtney Gass, and her two-year-old daughter Anika were all shot to death at a local apartment complex. Gass' boyfriend, Christopher Allgood, was arrested for her murder only. It's being suggested that she could have killed her own child.

Between 600,000 and 6 million women are victims of domestic violence each year, and between 100,000 and 6 million men.

Published reports suggest that tough economic conditions could be the fuel behind such violent situations. Who really knows? But, what is very apparent is a definite rise in these kinds of cases. IF you are in an abusive relationship or know someone who is please encourage them to seek help immediately. It could be the difference between life and death.

To be a survivor-first you must bleed. You bleed all that was inside of you: the pain, the memories, the fear, the wounds fusing together, the ties to what was in, all its forms. You bleed not once but several times.. And when you are empty, you either fade into a shadow or find the strength, and courage to live. When you stand up again, you are for a time, hollow-empty, like a bottle of beer lying on the street, cracked and reeking of its bitter contents. Then you fill yourself up with the new, your recreate yourself-you reform. You don't have the same heart or mind. The way you see the world is forever changed.
-Lynn Mari-